Monday, February 10, 2014

Potty Training Part 4



I think the more appropriate title for this post would be toilet training. Isabella is now 6 years old and doesn't fit the potty anymore. The last installment to our journey to toilet training is her being able to wash herself up after a poop. Yes! Congratulations Isabella! 


You see, I'm currently on a long leave to get ready to give birth to Isabella's baby sister. We have been conditioning Ella for the coming of the sibling and part of it is to make her realize that most of the attention would have to be given to the baby during her first few years. That means she's gonna have to be independent. The only thing she didn't like about the independent thing is to wash herself up after pooping because she thought it was yucky (...which was actually our fault. I read somewhere that parents are not supposed to refer to poop as yucky but as the body's normal way of getting rid of waste. If parents do, teaching kids to wash up would be quite a challenge!). So we thought about using the Good Deed and Rewards Cards! She got so excited, she finally allowed me to teach her how to do it. And once I taught her, it's like she's been doing it for a long time! She even envisioned washing the baby's! We're really proud of her!



your every woman, 

Tuesday, January 14, 2014

5 Nice to Have Baby Stuff and Gadgets

When you're a new parent, it's just natural to be excited about buying new stuff for the baby. And if you hadn't known any better, you're probably gonna buy really nice stuff that you don't really need. When we had our first baby girl, we had this Warm Me Shower and Bath by Safety First which was worth 7 grand at that time. 



Now that we're having our 2nd baby girl, I thought to myself that if we had 7 grand to spare these days, I would've bought more necessary stuff. With the expense of child delivery these days, not to mention the expenses that come afterwards, splurging on baby stuff should be the last thing on my mind.

But then again, it's still a happy experience to browse online and window shop around just to see what the baby section has to offer right? Let me give you my list of 5 unnecessary but nice things to have:

1.      1.  Benbini Watch

  • The Benbini watch is an ergonomically designed watch, perfect for any mom on a schedule. It has 2 bezels that indicate hours and minutes for anything that a mom needs to time on and a left/right switch to remind mom which side baby last breastfed on.  Pretty much like the milkbands, which I also like, but this is a watch and I love watches!  On the other hand, you can always use other reminders and scheduling techniques on your newborn, so this watch is definitely just nice to have.
2.       2. A Bottle Warmer



  • The bottle warmer that I like is called Quick ServeBottle Warmer by The First Years because the newborn kit that I bought was from the same brand. And not only that, it says that its “Unique design heats standard bottles and food jars to the perfect temperature instantly.” What a way to warm frozen breastmilk during wee hours of the night right? But, with great timing and knowledge on breastmilk storage, you can always heat water on a bowl and immerse milk bottles there for heating. Otherwise, nothing beats a bonding time latch-on. 
3.       3. A Hands-Free Breastpump Bra


  • The breastpump that I have is a battery / AC operated hand pump which I'm very grateful to have received as a gift. I have not given birth yet so I’m not sure up to what extent my daughter is going to depend on breastmilk since my first daughter didn’t have much luck on the breastfeeding part. If I will be successful on the lactation area this time, I’ll probably need a dual sided pump and it would be lovely if I could pump conveniently hands-free. 
4.       4. An Electric Bottle Steam Sterilizer


  • Of course, the sterilizer that I like is also from The First Years. Yeah, I’m OC like that. Who wouldn’t want an electric sterilizer that does all the sterilizing? However, since a good old steamer cooker have done the same job for my eldest daughter, might as well use that.
5.      5.  A Co-Sleeping Crib


  • I have always been an advocate of attachment parenting and co-sleeping. In certain parts of the world it is recommended to co-sleep using a co-sleeping crib instead of having the baby sleep next to you on an adult bed because of risks of suffocation and strangulation. But, I’m here in the Philippines and have never experienced such with our eldest. So, an extra adult bed is the most practical way to go. Daddy just has to sleep with our eldest on another bed.
If I win the lottery, I wouldn't think twice about buying these things. But for now, I think what we have is enough and we'll just buy as the need comes along.



I wouldn't mind receiving stuff from my list though! (Ehem...)

your every woman,

Parenting Innovation: The Good Deed Card

Ask anyone about the annual sticker drive for Starbucks planner and they would most likely be familiar with it. Heck, almost anyone in the work force is motivated to complete a 18-sticker booklet regardless of the price that comes with each sticker just to get one Starbucks planner every year! With that in mind, it’s easy to see that the Good Deed Card is such a wonderful parenting idea. If adults go crazy over such a scheme, why not kids?

Presenting, the Good Deed Card. (By the way, this is not my idea, which is why I included the original photo with the creator’s signature to give credit.)


There are actually a lot of variations of the Good Deed Card, depending on what your intentions are with the discipline of your kids. The principle is, for every good deed (or chore, or accomplishment, etc) your child makes, you get to punch one number off the card (or use stickers just like Starbucks). Once you kid completes the punches or stickers on the card, he/she is entitled to a prize.

Now, to combo the Good Deed Card with another brilliant idea I got from Pinterest, below are rewards cards:


Each reward card entitles your kid to something special they get to do instead of something they’re gonna  get. Well, for my kid’s sake, I inserted a few treats which she’d “technically” still get but I did that to remove the out of the blue requests for things like ice cream or a toy. She would still have to earn treats like those.

If you have a colored printer, you can browse online for card suggestions and tailor your rewards to suit your kid. Or better yet, craft your own! The laminating part was a challenge for me because who keeps laminating materials at home? So, if you’re interested to find out how much it costs, don’t hesitate to comment below.
Happy parenting!

your every woman, 

Saturday, December 21, 2013

VBAC Journal - Part 1


When I gave birth to my 2nd child via caesarian section, I didn’t like how it turned out. Why? Well, aside from the fact that CS delivery was more expensive than normal delivery, it gave me a lot of physical and emotional trauma. Below are the disadvantages that I’ve experienced.

1. Yes it was not painful during delivery, but it was one heck of a pain post-delivery. And the pain lasted for 1 and a half years before it was completely gone. 
2. And because it took a while for the pain to be completely gone, I was not able to exercise to get my body back in shape. I gained more weight due to lack of exercise and only had the determination to shed them off 5 years after I gave birth.
3. My breast milk did not come out until a week after delivery, probably because I didn’t really experience contractions that much. 
4. I’ve read somewhere that CS born children have lower levels of good bacteria in their gut, something that they would have naturally acquired if they passed through the birth canal. Because of this, their immune system is relatively weaker compared to normally delivered children. I’ve noticed that this was particularly true about my Isabella because we never failed to bring her to a hospital at least once every year. 

Now that I’m on my 3rd child, I was determined to give birth via normal delivery, whatever it takes! I researched and learned about this medical term called VBAC or Vaginal Birth After Caesarian. As the name suggests, it means being able to deliver vaginally after 1 or more caesarian deliveries. Not everyone is a candidate for VBAC, by the way. It’s a good thing I am because:

1. I have previously given birth via NSD or Normal Spontaneous Delivery to our late son prior to Isabella.
2. My Caesarian delivery with Isabella was done with a low traverse incision (bikini cut), which lowers my chances of having a uterine rupture.
3. The period between my CS delivery and this delivery is 6 years. 
4. The cause for my previous CS was placenta previa and if that cause is no longer an issue now, I would be allowed to have a TOLAC or Trial of Labor after Caesarian.
5. My baby is in cephalic position. – Although, you must not give up if on your dreams of having a Normal delivery, whether you’ve had previous CS or not, because there are a lot of ways that you could do to direct your baby to the right position. 
6. I’m not having twins.
7. I don’t have other issues that may threaten me or my baby such as diabetes, eclampsia, etc.

So, the only other thing essential to my successful VBAC is an OB-Gyne who supports it. IMHO, medical practitioners in the Philippines nowadays are more concerned about their revenue than their patients’ welfare. For one, a lot of mothers in my generation delivered via CS and when I asked them why, the reasons seemed manageable for NSD. Two, delaying post-delivery procedures is beneficial for the baby because delayed cord clamping increases early hemoglobin concentrations and iron stores in infant and delayed cleansing of the baby gives vernix caseosa longer time to moisturize the baby and help protect her against a wide variety of infections. However, delaying these procedures would also mean more time for the medical team to attend to one “customer”. Three, most mothers who previously delivered via CS are encouraged to have CS on their succeeding births.

I have experienced all of these, which is why I don’t have THE ONE OB yet! I’ve had prenatal check-ups from several different OBs. The first one, whom I really liked, said that as long as my baby is not oversized and I have all the qualifications for VBAC until I give birth, we’re gonna try it. However, one thing that worried me at the time was when she said that as soon as my cervix is dilated, even just 1cm, I have to be confined at a hospital for continuous fetal heart monitoring until I give birth. She said that was the difference between VBAC and a regular NSD. Based on my research on successful VBACs, mothers should be allowed to move around to naturally induce labor and a fetal heart monitor would not give her much freedom to do that. Another thing is that, being confined at the hospital from 1cm to 10cm for who knows how long would be very expensive! Unfortunately (or fortunately) this doctor got pregnant the same time that I did and had to go on LOA on her 3rd trimester. 

When the 2nd OB said I sought help from said: “Nako, kailangan mas malit ung baby mo ngayon sa una mong baby para mag trial of labor. Otherwise, bakit pa natin pahihirapan ang mga sarili natin?” (“Your new baby should weigh lesser than your previous baby to have a trial of labor. Otherwise, why would we make it difficult for both of us?”), I knew that I didn’t want to deliver the baby with her. Having a bigger baby does not disqualify a mother from having a TOLAC and I can’t imagine how the next baby can be even smaller than Isabella just weighed 6.5 kg when she was born.  I am more than willing to do hard work just to deliver the baby via NSD and if she’s not, we can’t be partners. 

I had prenatal check-up with a 3rd OB and she gave me promising information. Because she was my husband’s mother’s friend’s friend, she offered that she would treat my case as a house case, which meant that she would only be a consultant when I give birth but the ones who will facilitate my delivery would be the residents of this certain hospital. This also meant, I would only have to pay hospital fees and not professional fees. She said the residents would love if I have a successful VBAC because it would be a great case for them, making them really encouraging and patient. 

I’m kinda skeptical about having to be handled by residents, not to mention the rates at that hospital aren’t really that affordable. It so happened that one day, hubby and I stumbled upon a lying-in clinic on our way home. The rates are so affordable even though OBs are the ones who facilitate all of their deliveries. Emergency CS can’t be done on a lying-in clinic though, which meant you have to make accept the nearest hospital that the emergency team will bring you where the OB is affiliated with.

I haven’t set-up an appointment with an OB at that lying-in clinic so I haven’t decided whether to go with them or with my 3rd OBs suggestion. Pray for me!


your every woman,

Tuesday, September 24, 2013

The 2nd Estandarte!



After giving birth to Ella, I knew I didn't want another caesarian section. I had a lot of emotional struggles while going through the pain of recovery. Also, it took a while before I was able to work the pregnancy weight off because I still felt pain around a year and a half after birth. Good thing I was encouraged that if I lengthen the period before another pregnancy to at least 3 years, I could go through VBAC (vaginal birth after caesarian).

So, my OB suggested we get an IUD inserted, not only because of plans to have VBAC but also because of the cost of having 2 kids that are not far apart. 6 years later, we decided to have the IUD removed. We checked the Chinese calendar for a preferred date of conception to increase our chances of getting a boy this time around. However, we got pregnant earlier than expected, but that's fine. A boy or a girl will do. I think we owed Ella a playmate for a very long time.

I'm now on my 16th week and our OB suggested that we maintain a small baby so that I could go through a successful VBAC. I am so much willing to go through a normal delivery because of all the benefits it can provide myself and our baby. Pray for me peeps! :)


your every woman,